Narcissism, child custody may not mix, but sometimes they have to

For many Kentucky parents, doing what is right for their kids is their priority. Though some choices may seem easy, parents often come to points in their lives where they may question what course of action would most benefit their children. This feeling may be especially prevalent when parents divorce, and child custody decisions must be made.

Custody decisions can be difficult enough, but when one parent is also a narcissist, the process of coming to terms can seem grueling. The narcissist may try to win the favor of the kids while at the same time ignoring their needs in favor of his or her own. Narcissistic individuals often feel that they are more important than others around them, even if those others are their children. As a result, kids of narcissists can often face mental and emotional issues that stem from stress, low-self esteem and other problems to which the narcissist contributed.

If the non-narcissistic parent initiated the divorce, it is likely that the narcissist will want to appear like a victim and even attempt to retaliate against the other parent. In some cases, this type of retaliation could take the form of parental alienation. A narcissist may try to keep the children away from the other parent, but rather than supplying love and attention, he or she may simply treat the kids as possessions that the other parent cannot have.

After years of marriage to narcissists, most people know how difficult they can be to deal with. However, that difficulty may only increase during the marriage dissolution process and while child custody decisions are being made. If Kentucky parents are concerned about their safety, the safety of their children or just generally uncertain about how to come to the best custody terms when dealing with a narcissist, they may wish to speak with knowledgeable attorneys about legal options.

Source:, “The Narcissistic Father During And After Divorce“, Feb. 16, 2018